Your Perception Of Yourself

Have you thought about how you perceive yourself? 
What about how others perceive you? 

This question is very profound, and I feel especially to my female readers. 
We as women spend more time "worrying" or thinking about how others are viewing us. There are a lot of reasons why, but I am here to say, this needs to stop.

Our behavior in worrying about what others are thinking or saying about us leads to a self destruction and self defeading frame of mind. Not only will your self defeating behavior, or thoughts will effect you and how you interact with others, but it will effect your children and how your children will think of themselves. 
 If you don't believe me, consider this. 
Have you seen mothers stand in front of a full length mirror, looking at themselves, complaining about their stomach, hips, thighs, grabbing certain body parts they are self conscience of and, loudly say how they are so fat and have nothing to wear, and how if they just didnt have a big (whatever the complaint is::: thighs, hips, stomach, chest) And all the while the daughter is standing there, also looking? Who about when mothers take their children into the dressing rooms to try things on? This is when us women do the most critiquing of their bodies. If you don't do this, congratualtions, you are in the 10% of women who don't. For us 90% we either complain we have too big or too small something, and we do it with our friends, our daughters, our mom's, and cousins. 
We are all self conscience of our bodies in someway or another. 
 Why can't we find something we like about ourselves, focus on that feature, and realize and understand that we all are different sizes, different shapes, and realize our value and beauty in a unique and special way? 

I am going to say something and it is going to hurt, but please trust me I am saying it in a "speaking from experience" sort of way. 
Stop the nonsense. Stop the blame game. 
Let go of the past that has dragged you down, let go of excuses that led you to nowhere. 

From this day forward, 
Don't critique your body in front of your children. I would say don't do it anymore but that is not a realistic expectation, because I do it myself, so just don't do it in front of your children. 

Don't blame your friends, your family, your teachers, for who you are right now. 

Don't allow  yourself to using self defeating behaviors and thoughts, be kind to yourself! You would get upset if anyone talked mean about your daughter, but, why are you thinking and talking mean about yourself?

Don't allow anyone to personally attack or hurt you mentally, emotionally or physically. Period. If you are in a relationship where you are in danger, get out now. Go to a shelter, to away from whomever is hurting you. 

Be Kind and Speak Kindly about others. Be Kind and Speak Kindly about YOU!

Change the things about yourself that are destructive, self defeating, that hurt others and kill others spirits. Change how you think about yourself by improving and changing you.  

As always, never forget your worth. 

            

Feeling Better About Yourself

This isn't original. 
In fact, my whole this whole blog about "Feeling Fabulous" and feeling good about yourself is not an original idea. Nothing about the Fashion Industry is either! 

  So, I have been, over hte last couple of months, thinking to myself about how to attract more viewers to my blog. 
Spammers do it all the time. You know those "Like" Pages on (cough cough) certain uuummm... "FaceXxxx" webpages? You know how you see a cute picture in where all your friends write about their day? And you stumble on a picture of a child who is ill, and you have this sense of "Aaaaahhhh, I have to share and Like this because if I don't that little girl will think I don't like her" 98% of those the original people don't ever see them. In Fact, it is a Spammers way of you liking their page so that they will get more advertisement out there. Feel Cheated? I know! 
That is why, so, I have about 300 of my faithful readers a month reading my blog. But, I don't spam and I don't pay Google a dime from my money to write what I do.
I dont know how or why all of my readers are so dang awesome. But I am lucky. And No, I don't make a dime off the blogs either. I write because I love it and I love my readers. 

   All of this is going by how to make you feel better about yourself. 
It sounds too easy doesn't it? 
You need to start slow. The first thing is to understand your value as a person. You really can't love anyone before you learn to love yourself. And in order to love yourself you need to understand the value of you! 

I challange you this week for the next two weeks to write something good about yourself every day. Something you really like about yourself. 
 Writing good things about yourself will help you see who you really are and will help you to be thoughtful about what you write. It doesn't have to be a whole page. Just something that is one or two sentences. 

I also challange yourself to be kind to yourself. You are kind to others. Why do you have to be mean to yourself? 

Please try these two things for me and I will be on again. Next week. I am sorry I have missed a month! But I will be on! 

Love And Hugs
             

This is All New

Have you noticed that at the beginning of the New Year, we are all excited about the change of it? 
However, about this time of the New Year, we have just given up? 
I propose something new. An Alternative Way of Changing, being wonderful and still not having to succomb to the social paradigms of all that "New Year Resolution" garbage that you feel defeated by now anyway... 

Lets look at things in an all new way... 


First.
Change your self. How? I am sure you are asking. 

Well, it's easy and it's not. 
You need to write down a list of things that are good about yourself. Things you like. Make it simple at frist::: You're a Good cook? You make Chocolate Ganache better than anyone else in the county? Good! List it. You're happy in hard times, list that too.
Then, amke a list nest to it of things you want to change about yourself. If I were sitting next to you, I'd pull your hair if you wrote anything about your looks! PLEASE!!! Write something you want to change about yourself that you can change. Are you in a relationship that has gone sour and in abusive? write it, you want out of that. 
Are you judgemental? write that. Are you insecure about something? write that... You get the point. Then, pick one thing you want to work on in your list of things you want to change about yourself. You overspend? Pick that. Just one thing. 
Now go out and get a notebook and everyday write about your change in that item. What did you do that day? Did you over come that in in that day? Write about your accomplishments and your failures. 

Second

Be Persistant 
Don't give up on yourself. So you have been working on the thing that you want to change and everyonce in a while, you find you are failing. Pull yourself up and keep on trying. 

Third
Accept the Change, and Surf!!!
When I find that life is pulling me down and believe me my dear beloved friends, life had dragged me to the bottom a couple of times in the past, I just surf the waves. There is nothing else to do sometimes but just let things go! Sometimes life really gives us a big ole bag of dog poop, and really there is nothing we can do about it. But it is how we are to others and how we treat ourselves that we CAN do somethign about.  So, Accept Change, Embrace it and Surf the Waves, my friends. 

Fourth
A year later go back to your list and look at it and check off that item you have decided to change and find a new item on your list. 
You can even repeat the process because sometimes when you hcange one part of the thing you don't like other things will follow. 

   Dont let yourself get down for falling off the band wagon. 
But, Don't Hurt anyone, don't let anyone hurt you, and Just embrace you.. 
There is no one on earth that can love you more than yourself. And you and your family deserves to treat yourself and others in a kind and giving and loving way.

This is my First Post...

On this page. 

I have a couple of wonderful blogs... I love Blogging. This is going to be different. 
I have been thinking about it a lot. I have been in the Modeling Business years ago, I have been in the Retail Business, FOR YEARS... More than 20 years to be exact, and I have been a consumer, All My Life. 
Things are expensive. Things are worth paying a price for. But somethings are not that worth it and honestly... There are somethings in life. The best things: You can't put a price tag on. 
So, I was thinking about all of this. 
My inspiration for blogging how to feel, look and be Fabulous, came from something that is so simple. 
I was in the shower. I was getting make up on because I was going to meet my fiance (I refer to him as The Long Rock::: His last name translates to Long Rock in English) When I was thinking about it. 
We women spend a lot of time in front of a mirror, doing things to feel great about ourselves. The cosmetic industry is a trillion dollar industry, and yet, we oft times, after everything that is said and done and hundreds of dollars of product bought, still feel bad about ourselves. 

Well, I am done with this self defeating way of thinking. 

Join me! Follow my blog and I will post ways to feel, look and be GREAT! Be the best that you are! 

So, What do you say? Are you with me? Feel Fabulous. For Real! And Really, Should it cost you thousands of bucks? 

Love And Hugs, 
Dena Jensen