Your Perception Of Yourself

Have you thought about how you perceive yourself? 
What about how others perceive you? 

This question is very profound, and I feel especially to my female readers. 
We as women spend more time "worrying" or thinking about how others are viewing us. There are a lot of reasons why, but I am here to say, this needs to stop.

Our behavior in worrying about what others are thinking or saying about us leads to a self destruction and self defeading frame of mind. Not only will your self defeating behavior, or thoughts will effect you and how you interact with others, but it will effect your children and how your children will think of themselves. 
 If you don't believe me, consider this. 
Have you seen mothers stand in front of a full length mirror, looking at themselves, complaining about their stomach, hips, thighs, grabbing certain body parts they are self conscience of and, loudly say how they are so fat and have nothing to wear, and how if they just didnt have a big (whatever the complaint is::: thighs, hips, stomach, chest) And all the while the daughter is standing there, also looking? Who about when mothers take their children into the dressing rooms to try things on? This is when us women do the most critiquing of their bodies. If you don't do this, congratualtions, you are in the 10% of women who don't. For us 90% we either complain we have too big or too small something, and we do it with our friends, our daughters, our mom's, and cousins. 
We are all self conscience of our bodies in someway or another. 
 Why can't we find something we like about ourselves, focus on that feature, and realize and understand that we all are different sizes, different shapes, and realize our value and beauty in a unique and special way? 

I am going to say something and it is going to hurt, but please trust me I am saying it in a "speaking from experience" sort of way. 
Stop the nonsense. Stop the blame game. 
Let go of the past that has dragged you down, let go of excuses that led you to nowhere. 

From this day forward, 
Don't critique your body in front of your children. I would say don't do it anymore but that is not a realistic expectation, because I do it myself, so just don't do it in front of your children. 

Don't blame your friends, your family, your teachers, for who you are right now. 

Don't allow  yourself to using self defeating behaviors and thoughts, be kind to yourself! You would get upset if anyone talked mean about your daughter, but, why are you thinking and talking mean about yourself?

Don't allow anyone to personally attack or hurt you mentally, emotionally or physically. Period. If you are in a relationship where you are in danger, get out now. Go to a shelter, to away from whomever is hurting you. 

Be Kind and Speak Kindly about others. Be Kind and Speak Kindly about YOU!

Change the things about yourself that are destructive, self defeating, that hurt others and kill others spirits. Change how you think about yourself by improving and changing you.  

As always, never forget your worth.